Finding a good Psychic or Medium?

Since I started working full time again having spent a couple of years having babies etc…one thing that seems to be a recurring theme with my clients is they have never had anyone like me before. I just recently have had a couple of people come to me with stories of pure horror about being charged incredible amounts of money for non existent practices. One lady was taken for $150,000 because she was told her husbands Spirit was being haunted by Evil Spirits. I literally cried when I read this. It broke my heart and so I have decided after talking to yet another frightened and easily lead woman looking for answers, I had to write about it.

So how do you know you have found a good Psychic or Medium?

Obviously we aren’t going to be 100% right 100% of the time, but they should definitely have the ability to pick up on YOU and read for you. It is unfair to ask us such questions like ‘What did he have in his pocket when he died?’ because putting that sort of pressure on someone can make them make stuff up and if they get it wrong it makes everyone involved looked dumb.

If they know what was in his pocket they will offer the information.

Ask your questions but don’t give anything away. No personal details. I saw a sight for Theresa Caputo where you actually have to put in all your details including why you want a reading and who you want to hear from. Now this was connected to one of her sites but I don’t know if it is an official site but if it is true then this woman is a fraud. If it isn’t true she needs to get this taken down as it is detrimental to her reputation.

Also, while we all have to charge a fee, the fee should always be wavered or discounted for those who are in dire need of the help but can’t afford it. How can we tell? Because Spirit will tell me ‘Don’t charge this person’ or ‘Find a price they can afford’.

I’ve done readings for people who have paid in barter ie they cut mine and my boys hair for a reading. I’ve had clients without PayPal pay by Amazon Voucher, and a lot have paid in installments. I have done the reading then given then a bit each payment. But NO ONE should be charging more than the average person can afford. I don’t care how good they are.

If you charge per hour or more than £100 $120 for a good reading then your basically saying ‘I only read for people who can afford me’. It makes you look like a narcissist and money driven. Why do the rich get to grieve or get guidance more than the poor? The fee should be for everyone not just the well to do or connected. A good Psychic or Medium will know when to do it for free or at a discount.

The one thing they should NEVER do for you is charge you more. If your reading is a set price for a set amount, anything else they offer should be included in that reading in that time frame. So if you go there for a 45 minute session at say $50 and they say you need to do a cleansing or release a trapped Spirit, they should be showing you there and then how to do it or offering their services for free. ALL Path Walkers and Whiter Lighters should do these services for free. No exceptions.

If I had a show, corporate sponsorship and was making enough that my husband could stay home and look after and educate our boys I wouldn’t ever change my prices. I think what I charge is more than fair.

Your Psychic or Medium shouldn’t be looking at their clock or ringing the till in your presence unless other wise stipulated. My clients know, when they come for a reading, they get their reading via email within 2 days and then after that any questions they ask are all covered in the initial fee and because many of them have a story to tell and just want someone to listen, I do.

They know I have other clients to read for but most of my clients never have to wait more than 2-3 days to a reply to an email after the reading. I have regular clients who come back every month for top ups, I have some who are still discussing something from a reading 7 months after the reading. And I don’t charge. There are so many lonely, confused, sad, desperate people out there. My role in their life is to help them any way I can. There always comes a time when they don’t need me anymore and to me that is a proud day.

They should NEVER predict death unless it is to serve as a warning. When someone dies is between them and their maker. It has no business being in a reading where someone is looking for guidance. If the Psychic or Medium is wrong they can destroy a persons life. No Psychic or Medium should ever put themselves in a situation where they make themselves responsible for causing harm or emotional distress to anyone let alone someone who pays for a reading.

I’ve had readings where, it seemed like everything just went wrong. I felt so bad I spent weeks making amends to the person I was reading for. Not because I had gotten information wrong but the person who got the reading was reading wrong what I was saying. A good Psychic or Medium should always take responsibility for you walking away happy and fully understanding your reading.

They are essentially Doctors for your Soul and no Doctor worth their degree is going to let a patient walk away from them bleeding. As they have a Hippocratic Oath so should a person like me. If you know my blog you will know I talk about my Code of Conduct. I simply couldn’t live with myself if I let someone walk away from me with more questions than answers.

Never compare Psychics and Mediums against each other. I’m talking about the genuine here when I say this but don’t judge us based on the last reading you had. We all have our different ways of doing readings. We all have different symbols for the same thing, we all have different ways of reading out signs and symbols. Don’t compare especially in front of the Psychic or Medium unless your concerned about the way they conducted their reading because it can be quite not offensive but off putting to be told ‘Well my last psychic knew this about me and that about me but your doing all future stuff’. It can make you nervous and give you performance anxiety and we need to be relaxed and as comfortable with you as you are of us.

You will NEVER EVER be asked by a genuinely gifted person to perform any sort of ritual other than light a candle and other innocuous practices. No cracking eggs, ripping up money, burying jewels etc….it should never be that complicated. You are going in for a reading, you pay, you leave. If there is negative energy your going to know about it before them so for them to randomly come out and say your possessed or have bad Spirits attached is nonsense and they are getting ready to fleece you.

They should never be putting any suggestion into your mind that you need to be cleansed and freed and released from anything negative. It is fraudulent and just wrong. Please trust your instincts. You might not see or talk to the dead but your Intuition is a psychic gift and we ALL have it.

If it doesn’t feel right from the start, don’t do it. If your being asked to do anything that isn’t normal for a reading, before agreeing and paying for anything, get a second opinion. Come to me. I will help you. And never, ever, in a billion million years offer up any part of your body or body of any living breathing being. No hair, no nails, no blood, semen, spit, cat fur, rat, chicken, NOTHING!!! I cannot stress that enough. Some will want to cut your hair, RUN!!! If you offer a part of yourself to them you are essentially offering them your soul. They will own you. They will use you to their own ends and control you and it won’t be pretty.

A Psychic reading should consist of you going in, paying your fee, sitting down, asking your question to the cards or Psychic and then listening. After that you should ALWAYS be asked ‘Do you understand?’ or ‘Do you have any questions?’ They are there for YOU, not the other way around.

Without you they can’t do what they do to make a living. So you make sure you leave there happy with what you paid. If your not happy you have every right to ask for your money back or in the least get a free reading. They are on YOUR dime so don’t let them make YOU work for it. No answering questions that are leading, no rushing questions, no doing anything your not comfortable with. Your paying them.

They are providing a service. Without you they wouldn’t be open for business. In the same breathe, your Psychic isn’t Blob, they won’t know every single little thing about you, they will only see the images they are given and you have to remember we more often than not have to decipher images, symbols and sounds in our head. Spirit communicate using our energy, we use yours to read. It’s like two magnets opposing each other, bouncing off each other so we have to read what we catch in between bounces. So don’t expect them to know what you ate for dinner, what you do for a job, or what your cats names are (yes they are real examples)

A Mediums reading should be you going in, and letting the Medium see who is wanting to show themselves. They should never ask you ‘Who do you want to communicate with?’ or any leading questions. ‘How they died?’, etc….it should be clean and simple. ‘Mum says She is sorry she never got to see you get married but she was there in Spirit’ etc….never anything dark or twisted like ‘The man who abused you as a child has come through and he still watches you’ type of thing.

If it gets like that, take your money back and leave. But at the same time, please……understand it can be highly exhausting and stressful on our bodies and energies to do these things for you so don’t expect us to know every single person you have ever known on the other side. I only ever bring through someone for a client if they want to come forward.

I’ve done 15 readings in a row where a loved one has come through clear as crystal. Then 5 where it just purely psychic reading. I don’t advertise myself as a Medium. I don’t like to. It gives people connotations of me being something I’m not which is ‘Like every other Medium’ and I am anything but.

My sister, she is the Medium. I am Intuitive Clairvoyant. But I can do Mediumship if the Spirit wants to come through. My clients know this. They come to me for readings about their future and things that will guide and help them and if Dad or friend comes through it’s a bonus. It’s all charged the same regardless. But that being said, you shouldn’t be doing all the work and letting then ask a lot of questions.

You should simply say ‘yes’ or ‘No’ or if they say something like ‘Can you tell me why I keep seeing a boat covered in blood?’ then you can answer but don’t give anything away. You can say ‘Someone I knew passed away that way’ not anything like ‘Oh my Dad that’s my dad, is he okay, was he murdered, did he see my son being born? is he okay with Mums new man? because in that excitement they have just given away 4 things the medium can then turn in to things to add to the reading that makes me look better than they are.

If you don’t know who the person is. Be honest. Just say ‘I can’t think at this time, maybe it will come to me later’ or ask ‘I’m not sure, can you give me some more to go on please?’ It can often be the case your so expecting to hear from Dad or sister you forget about the Uncle that died when you were little. That’s normal. If you knew them, or of them you’ll remember them eventually or once you ask around. I always say to my clients ‘Can you ask your parents or …XYZ as they will know if it was someone who was alive before you were born’ so don’t discard it as the Medium being rubbish.

Always go in with an open mind. You are about to have your entire Spirit (soul) connected to those on the other side. many wonderful things can and have come out during a session. Plus the better you feel, the more open you are and the easier you are to read. So while they are the ones giving you the service, you can help by having an open mind and healthy attitude.

Don’t go in there giving them the 3rd degree about how good they are. If they are charging reasonable rates and they weren’t good then you haven’t really lost anything but time and you know never to go back. Plus, you can or choose not to pass their name on to friends and family.

Referrals are really crucial for some one like because it means the client thought you were so good they want other people to see how good you are. Although some of my clients have been telling me out and out ‘I’m not referring you because I’m not sharing you’ or ‘Your my secret’ was one I got told today lol But it works both ways, if you don’t do a good job your reputation can be ruined by bad referrals. This is why it is in their best interest to give you good service. If they haven’t done a good job, let them try and make it up to you. If they don’t offer, then give them a bad referral. As long as your expectations haven’t been too high you shouldn’t walk away unhappy if they were referred to you. They can get away with making good money for being a bad Medium or Psychic for so long before all the people who want readings won’t come back so this is when the referrals should kick in. If they are bad, they get no referrals, they go under.

You should never be judged. It doesn’t matter what your religious, sexual or racial background is, Spirit don’t judge. Neither should anyone else.

You should always be allowed to record your reading. Whether it be writing it down or using a digital recorder it is your right to want to make a note of the reading. When I do private readings (where they come to my home) I use a digital recorder and email it or burn it to disc free of charge of course.

Your Psychic or Medium should know their stuff. Whether it be a Theological question or a Physics question, a question about death or the ways a Spirit can communicate they should know the answer or at least have an idea of how it all works. You should be able to ask questions about how and why and the should be able to answer adequately. If they answer with an ‘I don’t know’ or ‘Science isn’t my thing’ then they can’t claim to be Spiritual or a person of Spirit because Science is a HUGE part of what we are. Any Psychic or Medium worth a salt will want to understand how and why they are what they are.

If they tell you things you don’t understand, tell them. When I do a reading I sit at my laptop with their email in front of me and I tune in to the vibration they sent out when asking their question/s. I then begin to answer the question/s and type it all out as I see it. They will get the question answered then whatever else I see after that. I type it as I see it or if I’m busy I write it all down as I see it and type it out later.

But when you get your reading from me, it is written as I see it. I forget sometimes you can’t see what I can so when I describe things it makes sense to me but not to them. But I end every reading with a note saying this. Any Psychic should. My clients know if they don’t understand something or need clarification, just ask. I’m happy to answer any questions. As any Psychic or Medium should.

Remember. We are there to help YOU!!! if your not feeling like your being helped, your not being looked after by a proper gifted person. Someone like me, for example will help people to the detriment to themselves. That is our lot in life. We serve others, while Spirit serves us. That’s the deal.

And I think lastly, your Psychic or Medium if they are genuine, understands about being humble to the craft. They understand the importance of appearance and skill. No Psychic or Medium should be walking around in designer clothes, long manicured nails, diamonds and fur coats. That sort of ostentatious and narcissistic behavior is deplorable. It is nothing more than strutting and that is NOT what a person of the light is about.

It isn’t about how much money you make, the money you make has NO basis for how good you are. I say this for two reasons. I saw Sally Morgan on the street a couple of weeks ago and she was head to toe designer clothes with this hideous grey fur thing around her, while her husband walked behind carrying bags and bags of stuff and not from the Poundshop I can promise you. I felt so sorry for her because she literally had her head up, walking really slowly like she wanted everyone to notice her.

It make my feel sick to my stomach. If you look up Sally Morgan now, she is mainly considered a fraud and has even resorted to threatening legal action to some people who saw some fraudulent behavior going on.

The newspaper or Radio station that made the claim paid compensation and she kept it.  These people had paid to go to her life show. They were sitting in the back of the hall and saw some men feeding her information through a microphone.

What they were saying on the mic, she was repeating through the ear piece because a small window at the back of the hall had been left open. Now over a dozen people saw this and when it started to get peoples attention the men in the room behind the window became aware of it and someone came rushing out to close the window. She used to be loved and respected by the nation and now she isn’t.

Her show on TV wasn’t renewed and I know loads of people who have been to her show and actually walked out. One of my friends who literally loves every Medium ever said she was gutted at how bad it was. She said by the end of the show the hall which seated hundreds and hundreds of people was half empty. It’s what I keep saying ‘If you abuse the privilege you will lose the gift’. This is a gift. It was given to us as a gift. Like getting any gift it is a humble and highly privileged honor to have bestowed upon you. It isn’t a right. It isn’t something you get as a right or demand so anyone who treats it in this way, doesn’t have a genuine gift.

While you can’t be a slob, you shouldn’t be dripping in expensive nail jobs and diamonds. It is not a measure of how good they are, just that they charge more than the average person can ever afford.

I hope I’ve helped you understand what it is you should be looking for in a Psychic or Medium. I REALLY hope none of you read this and get taken advantage of.

I think it’s even appalling that I’ve had to do it in the first place. But I’ve really enjoyed it.

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3 thoughts on “Finding a good Psychic or Medium?

  1. Your words are so comforting and beautifully written. I would love a reading. How can we arrange this? I live in L.A. Where are you? Thank you for your sincerity,
    Hope to hear from you soon.
    God Bless,