My best friend has asked me to talk about Soul Mates. He wants to know if they exist and if so, do we reconnect as Soul Mates on the Other Side, is the love still there etc…?
The Answers might confuse and upset some people but I know this subject well and am more than happy to discuss this with you. I will only ever be honest and open with people and if the truth hurts then it is better to be hurt by the truth than devastated by a lie as I always say.
So do we have soul mates? Yes, there are such things as soul mates. We are pre destined to find that special someone with who we share a significant portion of our lives with. Whether it be to have children, to learn from the relationship, companion or you make a great business partnership, there is someone out there for everyone. We have all had love where we thought they were ‘The One’ and our hearts pound when you hear their voices, and tingle at the touch. Can’t sleep, eat or stop thinking about them. Some of us stay together till the day we die, some stay together just to have kids, some are together until we have learnt a valuable lesson before we move on. We can have more than one Soul Mate, but a soul mate tends to be the only one we truly love. It’s a love you can survive through hard times and bad times, good times and sad time. As I understand it, if some of us have had marriages before, we got married young, or lived with someone before we settled down, they are Earth Mates, or Earth Angels. Our time together might be fleeting or high tensity, stressful and hard but when we come out that relationship, we come out of it wiser, stronger, having learnt something valuable we would otherwise have never haven’t learnt without that relationship.
Our whole existence is about learning, and passing on our knowledge. I have learnt in my marriage to have more tolerance and patience which i didn’t have with previous relationship. I was a lot younger and got bored very easy but this time round, if I didn’t have patience and tolerance I would be a drunk or drug addict lol My god, do I have oodles of the stuff now lol My husband is beautiful, but he comes with more drama than Days of Our Lives, and I sometimes feel like I’m living in Days of Our Lives lol My artist husband is very cabaret in his over acted, dramatic story line hahaha and he will simply say he is ‘Interesting’ and I can’t deny I haven’t had some adventures, and he is right but some of them I could have done without hahaha BUT!!! I would do it all again tomorrow because I got my beautiful children from him and he really is my best friend. He is the only person that accepts me for me, for who I truly am and without him I wouldn’t be doing what I do because he is my biggest supporter and fan. My best friend Bluebird is second lol But my husband, after nearly 15 years of being together still makes me giggle like a school girl, and makes me go weak at the knees. We have had almost everyone in his life go out of their way to try to destroy what we have and we have been through some of the worst things a couple can go through and we have come out of it stronger and more in love. We have gone past the fuzzy giddy youthful love you have at the start and are now into mutual respect and honesty, kindness and genuine caring. We have lost children, I have almost died, we have been nearly bankrupt and almost homeless and our faith and our relationship has grown because of the fact we are Soul Mates. If you can go through what we have gone through and come out the other side smiling, put a ring on it and settle down quickly because you have a soul mate. A Soul Mate is by definition someone who is the best half of you, they are your rock when your weak, your smiles when you’re in tears, they don’t judge when you judge yourself and they love you regardless of the trouble they bring, or the dramas they act out. And we will have only one. They are the one that even if one of you dies, the love is never lost and you will never love anyone that way you loved them. For those who have had long relationships that didn’t work out, you have an Earth Angel or Earth Mate. They are here for a short amount of time in comparison to a Soul Mate and it may have just been for procreation, or learning but they then move on to also find their own Soul Mate. Does that make sense?
A Soul Mate is a life long love that never goes away, an Earth mate is specific for a lesson or reason ie: If there was abuse of any sort, it is for lessons. You learn your lessons then you can hopefully move on but everything DOES all happen for a reason. It’s all about lessons and learning from things that happen in our lives. Each experience we have gives us specific lessons we then use to grow in faith and Spiritual knowledge. Spirit have often been the only thing that have stopped me from wanting to push my husband into the ocean and running away to the nearest pub lol but I know he would say the same thing about me lol This is what it is to have a soul mate.
Are we still Soul mates on the other side? The answer is, No. We are not soul mates on the other side and the reason is because we are all at different steps on the ladder, if we are all soul mates in the after life we will all be waiting around waiting for our partners to get to the same level as we are so we can all move on.
Don’t get me wrong, we are all together, we all still love each deeply but the bonds of marriage, parenthood etc…is removed and we actually love each other more. Deeper, its a raw deep love that Spirit have for us. If you have ever had a Near Death Experience, you’ll know what I mean. The closest thing I have ever come to feeling that pure love was when my babies were born. Nothing on this earth next to having your kids I think can even come close to feeling that love Spirit have for us and it is no different on the other side but instead of your parents meeting you to bring you through to the other side as parents, it is Spiritual Equals. You will always recognise them as your parents, until you become cleansed of soul and Spirit from this life and you will become greater Spiritual Equals. The reason for this is genetics. If we all lived the same life with the same Soul Mate over and Over again, we would all be on this earth one big inbred race of monkeys running about marrying and recreating. The love you have for each other is all STILL there, it’s greater in fact, but it isn’t bound by titles and roles. You come together to leave a lesson or two on Earth, you part ways and then you meet up later in the after life. It’s kind of like a horrendous team building exercise you have been forced to do at work for a sexual harassment exercise you were forced to do because one fellow colleague told a girl at work she looked ‘Hot’, he meant she literally looked hot, sweaty, uncomfortable, hot in 33 degree temperatures but she took it to mean he was coming on to her and made a complaint to HR. You will all play different roles in the team building exercises but with a mutual knowledge of what role the other plays in real life. The After Life is Real Life in this case. But when the exercise is done and the Boss has been pretending to have some sexual harassment crisis to show his staff he is just as down with the office as the best of them, you work together to fix the issue and learn from it then you go back to being Boss, Employee, Cleaner etc…in the real world. So as with Soul Mates, you live this life together, you pass over, you meet up and whoever went first will help heal the other of this life, ills and issues and then we move on to our next roles. Some of us might have to come back down, some of us might get to choose. If my husband was to come back down to do it again because he didn’t quite learn what he was meant to (and it’s probable lol hahahaha he is a grump after all lol) and I got to choose (which I bloody hope so after all I’ve been through I will fight them tooth and nail if they are sending me back down again. I will have to be dragged by my feet by Heavens Biggest and Best Bouncers if they think I’m doing it all again lol) I will sit at the gates with my guitar and sing protest songs until they get sick of me and let me in lol and they know I would too, they made me this stubborn lol But if this was the case, it wouldn’t be possible for us to meet up as soul mates. We are all one in Spirit, we are all the same vibration of light, the love is the same. But on earth while at some point in my next life I may indeed have a conversation with someone who was my Mum in this life as he fixed my car, in this life she was my Mother. We will actually cross paths with some of our loved ones in the next life after this if it is our destiny to come back. But if we just had the same partners over and over again, we would be all stuck in a genetic loop and would technically be inbreeding with each other. We have to mix it up. I know this may upset a lot of people but I learnt this at the age of 18 that family in this life doesn’t mean family in the next. My sister died of Cancer when I was 18 and she was 28. She left an 8 yr old son and a 7 week old daughter. I gave up doing a teaching degree to help my Mum with the kids just for a couple of years until my parents came to grips with everything. And my eldest sister, Marion who was my very first teacher, was very close to our sister Laurie. When Laurie died she came to visit Marion as Marion wasn’t coping very well and wasn’t looking after herself. Her grief was immense and she was suffering. And it was Laurie who explained it to Marion that she loves us all very much but it is different now she was home. Marion said the love Laurie exuded had been almost too much for her heart to bear but it was almost like she didn’t recognise her son and daughter as hers. I was so angry when I heard this because I felt cheated that she didn’t love me anymore. I had tried to save her that day she collapsed. I tried to breathe life into her lungs as she lay having convulsions on the floor, trying to protect my Mum from what she was seeing her baby go through, can you imagine the heart ache of a Mother watching her baby die in front of her eyes? And here Laurie was saying it meant nothing to her anymore. Not in the way we feel it here on earth. But when I got my degree and started working in a primary School I got a visit from her myself. And she explained it like this ‘In this life, I loved you like a Sister, but in the next life I love you forever for as long as my Spirit has light, the love ends as sisters when I died, but in the next life I get to love you forever, I watch over you and protect you just like I do the children (she meant in her passing she got to choose and she chose to help children in the after life). It is all the same. The bonds of love are not broken in death, they are better, they just aren’t as sisters’ so then I understood and when I lost my children and partners and parents etc…it’s all exactly the same. When you lose a lover or spouse, they aren’t your husband or wife in the next life, they are your Spirits, they become yours and everyone else’s protection, the love is better and when you meet on the other side you will have the same love so you will understand what they mean. You won’t love them like a husband or wife, you will love them the way you love everyone else on the other side. As I have explained before, we have to be healed from our life because our souls would be too heavy with too many past life burdens if we weren’t cleansed from all we have been in our life. We wouldn’t be able to let go of the loves and concerns of all our other lives if we weren’t. So we are released of the pains and the worries. 99% of the trouble Negative Spirits have in haunted locations is because they fear being made to be punished for being not very nice in life and they don’t realised in fact they would be healed from it, and while they may have to work their way back up to becoming a pure Spiritual Light, there is no punishment in the after life. Punishment is something we do to ourselves, not in Spirit. If these Spirits knew they would be freed of the heavy burden they carry, they wouldn’t stick around haunting the houses or buildings they do. Does any of this make sense? I hope so because I can feel that I’ve gone all blurry eyed and ‘not in myself’. That happens all the time. I don’t think I will ever be reading or discussing Spirit with all my faculties about me ever again. But then have I ever? lol If you have any questions or want to know anything I haven’t covered, please don’t hesitate to ask. A lot of people might not like that I’ve said we lose connection with our loved ones on the next life. But you have to understand, it is only the physical connection we lose, not the emotional. I am honoured to know that amongst my many ancestors and Spirits watching over me and helping me read for people and making me a better Intuitive Clairvoyant are my parents and children and siblings etc….you know you’re in good hands, better hands than anyone else here on this entire earth.