Sadly I have been dealing with a lot of people who have had their lives torn apart by the loss of a loved one by Suicide. So I decided to do a post based on my knowledge of what happens to a Suicide Soul after they pass over.
Contrary to popular belief they do NOT go to Hell and they do NOT get classed as being a Sinner for taking their own life.
Depression is the number one cause of Suicide and Spirit being the all loving all light souls that they are turn their back on NO ONE in the After Life. So I’m going to tell you the truth about what happens and I know this according to what I have been told by the Spirits who committed suicide themselves. This might hurt or offend some people and that isn’t my intention. I am simply trying to educate people because I am quite simply bothered by the amount of lies, half truths and blatant ignorance is given by supposed Psychics and Mediums who care more about the work than the clients to educate themselves on the truth. SO here it goes. I apologize if I offend anyone but I am all about The Truth when it comes to Spirit.
Our Lives are all predestined. From the minute we are conceived it is set in our Life Cycle when we will marry, who we marry, what children we have, what careers we have and things like that but also especially when we die. So contrary to what some believe NO ONE dies before their time. If their time is up, it was meant to be and part of the plan. Even unfortunately Babies, Children. The duration of our life is based on two things.
The Lessons we were sent here to learn and The lessons we have taught those we leave behind. We spend more time as a Spirit than we do as a Human and we live our lives according to the lessons we are meant to learn. For example: Someone who was a wealthy, greedy, megalomaniac might after death decide to come back as a Poverty Stricken African Child so his soul will know the true meaning of suffering in his soul.
As we live our life, everything good or bad happens when and how it is meant to. Our Paths are as they were set out to be before our birth. But the easiest way to understand this is if I explain it like this.
If you imagine our life is a journey and your using Sat Nav to complete your journey. Imagine then your destination is set in before you set off on that journey and while we will go down some roads set out for us how we reach our final destination is based on how many detours and reroutings we take. The destination is the same but the roads we choose to go down is all us but either way you get there in the end. But the roads we take whether we choose them or not come with the lessons we are meant to learn from taking them. All the good things that happen to us, all the bad things that happen to us, happen because they are meant to and because the lessons we learned from them are important for us to complete the journey having learned the most we could from it.
With Suicides, they get to a fork in the road when the Sat Nav gives them a choice. take Road A) Where your life will end and your journey is completed or Road B) where you take the lovely scenic route which means it will take longer to reach your destination but you will get there in the end.
If they are successful in their attempt to take their life then they chose Road A. I haven’t met one Spirit who killed themselves who didn’t regret what they did the second they pulled the trigger, jumped,swallowed the pills etc….they all said the second the light left their life they realized that actually things weren’t so bad and there IS a way out of the depression or stress they were under at the time. They all wished they had chosen Road B. However because they are Spirits they know, understand and fully accept that this was the path they chose and it was for a greater purpose than anyone living realizes.
They are treated with so much love and understanding when they die. All their loved ones greet them and walk them to where they will get the help they need to release themselves from the stress and fear of what made them want to die in the first place. All their loved ones on the other side actively join forces to help mend the pieces of their Broken Souls. And they are Broken Souls. They are released of all their Earthly emotion,all the things that made them hurt, angry, sad, depressed, jealous, worried etc…it is removed from them as is the trauma of their death. Especially in the case of Gun Shot deaths, Hangings, Train, Bus Suicides etc…the body takes a huge impact which if not removed it would carry over into the next life they have to live. And they WILL have to be reborn. So what happens next?
Well this is the where the Tough Love part comes in.
Suicide isn’t an acceptable practice in Spirit. Your, We are expected to have utmost faith that no matter what happens in our life, there is a way out and we will be taken care of no matter what is happen right now, tomorrow is another day. So if you do choose to take your life your showing a lack of faith. And because of this you will be made to look at the impact of your death on those you have left behind.
For some reason the popular belief of those left behind is that the person who killed themselves is trapped and filled of guilt and anguish because of their actions. Because the house they lived in and or died in seems so dark now, there is a horrible air of sadness and dark depression in the building that wasn’t there before they took their life. I am here to tell you this is wrong. The dark heavy depressive feeling left in the house they lived/died in isn’t because of them being trapped souls. It is because WE know what happened in the building and if your still living in the house where it happened or you still have access to the building no one remembers what the place was like before the death only afterwards. The house stops being the house where ‘XYZ’ lived and it becomes the house where ‘XYZ’ took their life. They get forgotten for the people they were and become defined by the fact they took their own life.
If you can remember they are now in Spirit and all the things that made them so sad and so full of anguish in the first place is now gone. They don’t feel the same way. They are Enlightened Beings of Light, all they care about is making sure their loved ones are at Peace with their passing and this is why they are told to come back and hang around.
We all feel them around us after they die and the heaviness we feel is OUR grief not theirs. But they are around us and they are feeling guilty and that is because of the fact they see the suffering they caused us. Suicide is never easy on anyone. If you die of an illness then people will say ‘Well at least they aren’t suffering now’ if they died of an Accident or Sudden Death they say ‘At least it was quick and they didn’t suffer’ or ‘They died doing what they loved.’ if it is Murder or something Violent like that we say ‘I won’t let the tragedy of their death define how I remember them, I’m going to embrace their memory because that is what they would of wanted’. etc…. But if it is Suicide everyone involved is left until the end of their days asking ‘Why? What could I have done? Why didn’t they talk to me or get help?’ and because of that Our Creator, Our Elders, our Loved ones on the Other Side make us come back in Spirit form so we can ‘Learn from our mistake’.
No Spirit who take their life is free from learning a lesson. They are ALL made to come back to those they left behind so they can see what their decision to take the A road created. And they aren’t allowed to move on to the next phase in their Spiritual Existence until they are forgiven. So this is why I tell everyone who comes to me looking for answers that they need to sit down with their loved one and tell them what their death did to them and at the end of it you need to tell the Spirit you forgive them.
They have to make amends for what they did and the best thing you can do for your loved one who has taken their own life is to sit down one day and say ‘XYZ, you broke my heart when you took your life. I will never understand why you felt you couldn’t talk to me. But I love you and I need to know your at peace now because you were in so much pain during your last days. So I want you to know I love you and I forgive you for doing what you did because no matter how much I am hurting for losing you I know nothing I feel will be as bad as what you felt when you made the decision to leave us all behind. So I forgive you and I want you to go in peace.’
Just by saying that, you heal everything. You heal the gaping hole in your heart and you heal theirs too. Then they can move on to the next phase of their Existence. Which for them is Reincarnation. They don’t get a choice to stay. They have to come back to learn from their mistake.It may very well be in the next life their lose a loved one to suicide so they know the pain. Then when they die they understand it from both sides and hence they move up a step in the ladder.
However, in the case of things like Murder Suicide it is a different story all together. In the case of a Murder Suicide the Murder Victim goes up the ladder and the one who did the murder then took their own life once they are healed of their passing etc…get sent down to the bottom of the ladder along with the serial killers and dictators etc…and will be made to suffer the pain and suffering ten times worse than they caused until they get the lessons they need to learn. Then they will get reborn and reborn and reborn and reborn moving up the ladder until they finally get the message. I know in one of my past lives (my first I think) I was a horrible disgusting man who gorged and gave orders to end the lives of those who opposed me or got in my way. I was a slothfully lazy man who basically ate himself to death from his own greed. From the times of King Henry the 8th. So I would like to think I’ve learned from my mistakes by now. lol I’m NOT coming back again. I will sit outside the Pearly Gates singing Protest songs if I have to lol
So what can you do to help someone you know how has taken their own life?
Well you can sit down one quite day or night and talk to them. It doesn’t need to be out loud, it can be in your head. But you can help by telling them how much your hurting. How you wish they had come to you for help and how much it has affected your life. It is perfectly okay to get upset and even angry. This is what they are needing to hear. You need to be 100% honest. You don’t need to use kid gloves for their benefit. If your angry, tell them your angry and why. This will be Cathartic for you and it will be a valuable lesson for them. Then after you have said all you can you then need to try and see it from their perspective. You don’t have to like it or accept it but you do need to forgive them. Because you’ll never know their fear or their suffering until you try to piece together WHY they did it. Think about all the things they had going on at the time and try and see the other side of the coin (as they will be with you too). Then you need to forgive them so they can be at peace. In fact you don’t even need to forgive them, but you do need to accept that this is what they chose and for whatever reason they did it you just want their souls to finally be at peace. By doing this your letting them move on. If you don’t do it, they don’t get to move on.
They have no concept of time but instead of being a Spirit who is waiting for people to say ‘I forgive you’ they could be getting reborn into a new life. I am not saying that all suicide cases are reborn into a life where someone they love kills themselves either, I was using that as an example. Some have said that was the case but not all.
The one thing you don’t want to do with a Suicide is keep them Earth Bound because of your grief or guilt. It is bad enough when it happens with a loved who died from other causes but because Suicides do have to come and make amends it is easier to do it to them. So if you love them, please……let them go. And as they have all, every single one of them have told me basically ‘Don’t let my death define how you remember me. I was more than how I died. My death wasn’t what I was as a person, it was who I was in the moment of my death. So don’t let your memory of me be about how I died and why I died. Remember ME, not my death and then if you love me, let it go so we can all be at peace.’
There is ALWAYS a way out of your despair. There is always an answer to your questions. There is always another option to taking your life. I couldn’t imagine anything worse having lost a couple of people myself to Suicide but what is worse for them is not being allowed to move on until their loved ones forgive them. They aren’t trapped. They aren’t unhappy, they can come and go as they please, but until they make amends for their passing they are just a Spirit who exists and can’t move forward to any of the good stuff. It happens to them all eventually though and I’ve seen what it does to them and it bursts your heart with pride and joy when you see it. It really is the most remarkable thing I’ve ever seen when a Spirit gets to move on. It is indescribable.
So if you’ve lost a loved one to Suicide, let them go so they can be more than they allowed themselves to be in life. It is the best thing you can do for yourself and for them so you can all Be At Peace.