I’ve just been taught a valuable lesson.

Today, I found out, I can no longer be friends with my clients. I discovered that no matter how hard I work, I will never be enough for some people and I’ve been left feeling confused, upset and sad.

A few weeks ago I got contacted by someone wanting a reading. Who seemingly was so pleased with what I was offering they wanted their husband read and then her best friend. I started feeling like I’d met a kindred soul. They were so much like my husband and I but they had all this untapped potential.There was something there with the both of them and when they asked me to Mentor them I was shocked and nervous, scared and excited. Were these people going to be the first to learn everything I had been taught. Sure I’d helped people in the past but never had I wanted to sit and teach someone to ‘Hear the Universe’ as much as I wanted to teach this couple. I agreed to Mentor them and we had our first session last week. They were like sponges. I felt like ‘If anyone was going to really listen to what was being said it was these two’ then 4 days ago I was approached by a young man who has such a strong gift he is almost hounded by the Spirits who surround him and he asked me to mentor him also. I took this as a sign maybe this was the time I start teaching because my teacher always said I would end up teaching. Now I didn’t see any harm in this because it was A Couple Who wanted to bring out and enhance anything they had there and or laying dormant for the purposes of guiding and healing others verses a young man who wants to understand how not to be afraid of his gifts and learning to ‘Read’ for people so he can help them and guide them, like I do.

Well apparently I offended my couple by saying this when I did the survey on ‘Would any be interested in taking classes and was it a good idea?’ because I then wake up this morning to a request from PayPal to return all the money they paid and a torrent of abuse and cruel remarks.

Upon trying to ascertain what I had done wrong I was told a few things which I would like to address publicly for the purposes of anyone else who is curious about me and what I do.

One of the things she kept saying was ‘I am a liar’ that what I say about them on my Blog is different to what I say in Private’. Well what did I say? I said they had no gifts per se but I’m charging them to enhance their gifts’ so I’m lying because she has gifts and her gifts are just as strong as her husbands and I don’t know what I’m talking about because she’s been seeing Spirits since she was a kid which I never mentioned.’ Okay so lets address this ‘She told me in one of her first emails, she was a Gypsy. Gypsies are psychic,it’s a known fact.I live in the UK where her Gypsy family are form, they run all the Psychic booths and shops and stalls. it’s a known fact. I had no need to mention it. When I said ‘they have no gifts per se’ I simply meant compared to my young man in Nevada who wants to be a professional Psychic and do readings for people,this couple were going to work together, one in a sort of healing role and the other in a more Spiritual, Emotional Guidance kind of way. Two very different roles, one requiring completely different skills and understanding that the other.

The gifts that the couple have are for a different purpose than the young mans. Therefore requiring different lessons.

She said I am Ego driven and have no gift. I’m obsessed. All I do is talk about myself.

Well when you ask someone to teach you what YOU know, how can I not? I can’t teach you how I learned stuff without talking about how I learned them and how I used them. I don’t like New Age Spirituality, everyone knows this. I don’t like they can charge some poor soul the earth for a crystal when a rock from your garden does the same thing. It’s not the followers I get pissed off with, but the Sellers in the Industry. Everyone knows this. I swear,  rant and I get annoyed. But she had lead me to believe we were becoming friends and I in my ‘Switched off’ mode tried to share my life with her as she had me’. Apparently I am not allowed to share stories of myself when trying to teach someone and befriend them.

As for the Ego thing, well it might be because I said I want to make enough money so my husband doesn’t have to work. So I can pay for Christmas myself and feel like I contributed something.

Let me explain: My husband suffers from crippling depression. It has taken a big strong beautiful man and turned him into someone I don’t recognize. Yet every day he gets up and goes to work to put a roof over out head. Not once complaining. I stopped work to look after him and then we had our boys. I am used to always taking care of myself. I’ve never been a bit money earner. It’s not what I’m interested in. But I would like my husband to stay home and paint and take over as a Housewife so he can sleep in, and not worry about the bills for once. His depression was ‘Event based’ Which means it was an event that happened to him that triggered the depression. He becomes obsessed at times, pushing himself to the limit to earn so he knows at the end of the month he is covered. It breaks my heart. So yes I would like to make a decent enough of a living to let him give up and take care of himself emotionally and Spiritually. If we wanted to, we could both work and make so much money we could have savings and buy a house and that in our opinion would mean we were ‘Rich’ lol because having savings and buying a house seems to be The Dream every married could aspire to. I’ve never wanted fame, I could of, I’ve been asked to do stuff for TV and Magazines, but I’m shy, I’m nervous, self critical and can get defensive. It’s not nice, so I keep away. I don’t want to be rich, I just would like to make a living. I want to be able to contribute at Christmas and Birthdays because, well sometimes as a wife and Mother society doesn’t always think your contributing anything and your lazy and get to sit on your ass and shop. So I felt like I was doing well taking the pressure off my husband who always starts to tense up come Oct. Does that make me a bad person?

In essence what this woman did was go out for a meal, ask for seconds, then thirds, and then had a dessert and decided 8 days later she wanted her money back because the meal you gave her wasn’t up to her standards.

She didn’t like the fact that I said her husbands gift was stronger than hers. He has an incredible energy and could do wonders for people and animals especially. He is the one who I felt would get the most work because doing Healing is less scary to people than being read. Even people who don’t believe in the Paranormal will have Reiki and have healing. Plus people know now that there is a connection between man and beast and if this man could tell clients what is wrong with their Dog etc…then people would pay for that.

She said she couldn’t understand how learning to read if a card is red or black would teach her to open her gift. Well if you’ve read my blog you know it is the first thing I do with anyone who is wanting to know how to focus on Spirits because guessing the colour is the first step in teaching you how to focus, tune in to your surroundings and also eventually fine tune your Telepathy skills.Telepathy is how Spirit talk to us. She had a week of lessons and was really looking forward to the lesson on Monday when all of a sudden she changed her mind.

She said she had something to teach me and I had lost my gift and was on the edge of darkness and I never responded to all her emails.

Well she did teach me something. She taught me, Never will I teach what I know to just anyone. It had never felt right until they asked me to. It made me so excited that while I wasn’t sure I had anything to teach I realized that I did indeed have a lot to teach. I had always doubted this since my teacher told me and when my young man asked me the other day I took that as a sign. Also I now will have to send a disclaimer with every reading I do so my clients know I won’t be able to enter into any sort of friendship with the people I read because it hurts when they stab you in the back. I know people will say ‘Didn’t you see it coming’ and I will say ‘Kind of but I didn’t think in  a million years it would come from them’.

I feel dirty. I feel my need to want to be in a position to take the strain off my husband has given people the wrong impression of me. To be clear, I make about £300 a month while I’m working part time. You might pay $60 which is more than enough I think, but by the time that is converted into pounds it’s around £32. For 5 days work. I had told this couple that all services I provide from now on (Once they started being mentored) would be free. My young man, is being taught for free.  I said to make a donation on what you thought the services were worth. She paid, She got 7 days worth of services for less than £20 a day. Yes I would like to make more, but not at the expense of being away from my boys. Their education comes first so unless one of us is home for them and their schooling then I will never be working full time. However having said that I still work about 60 hours a week. Just not all for a fee. If I was earning what these Celebrity Psychics earned I would work for free. It’s a shame but I do have to charge a small fee for what I do.

She then added insult to injury by accusing me of being a Scam Artist and ‘I could be a Nigerian Scammer for all she knew’. She is one of only 3 clients to see my face, so she knows this isn’t the case. She said I was ‘probably trying to steal her identity as we speak’. So for every time I sat up emailing her to really late, I sat up to past midnight mentoring her and her husband, for every email she sent and I replied to before replying to even family members, what I was, to her wasn’t enough. She wanted in on my life but didn’t want to know about my life. She wanted to learn from me and what I knew but didn’t want practice the why I was taught. With the cards. And if any of you reading this have been one of the ones I’ve taught this technique to, you’ll know what I mean buy ‘It teaches you focus before it teaches you to communicate to Spirit. She clearly musn’t have felt she was doing very well even though it was a test on skill but on focus. She said she knew everything I had taught her. So why ask for more lessons? She said She could learn what I taught her from any good web search. So why take on half of my sayings and practices?

I don’t get it.I don’t get any of it. Some have suggested maybe this was her intention from the start. But I hope not. I refuse to believe there are such horrible people out there who sit and pray on other peoples kindness. BUT it proves my point when I say ‘Everyone wants to learn what I know and do what I do but no one wants to do the work needed to learn it and the work needed is so easy but impossible for anyone not on a true path’. And if your intentions for this life aren’t honorable then I guess it’s not for you.

I’m sorry, I’m sad and I’m angry. I’m sorry she misread my intentions, I’m sad I now am too afraid to want to Mentor anyone and I’m angry that after over 24 years of doing readings for people the way I have, I have to now change the way I do it. So now I have to put in conditions to my reading that state ‘You have 48 hours after you get my reading to dispute the payment and or get a refund’ and ‘If you have problems with me to discuss it with me before you take the shoes off my child’s feet which I paid for with your fee’ and ‘Please don’t ask for any sort of mentoring or friendship as I’ve been so badly hurt in the past I can no longer afford the luxury of having friends’.

I should point out this woman asked for her month back 4 weeks after receiving her readings. She paid for three. All of which she got weeks ago. The last email I got from her was to say She was’ excited about her next lesson as she had so many questions and she might have to make an extra donation’. Even though I had told her ‘No more paying for anything, she was a student now and it was beyond paying for things’. 4 hours later she is complaining to PayPal.

Today is a sad day indeed. I am honestly broken. It might be a while before I write again. I think maybe I should go back to Beauty Therapy.

The Kiwi Psychic and Midwest Ghost Episode 6

Today is about O.B.Es. Explained and how to deal with them.

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How to Deal with Negative Energy/Spirits/Demons

I know what I’m about to talk about is going to be controversial because my theories are based on my own observations of the situation and through careful analysis of materials and evidence I’ve looked at over the years and I know some more ‘Liberal’ Scientists are starting to agree with my theories so I can’t be that far off the mark.

My observations of The Dark Side, Negative Energies and Demonic Presences are NOT based around Religious Belief and personally I think Religion makes the situation far worse and drags things out a lot longer that they need to be. I myself have had dealings with Demons as a Teenager and how I deal with it is exactly how I am going to teach you to deal with it. It left no mental or emotional scars, didn’t cost a single penny and made me a better person than I ever was before I had the encounters. So I want to pass the knowledge on to you because I found out people are charging  folk up to tens of thousands of dollars to do something which can be dealt with by yourself for free.

Okay so as I maintain, Negative Energy, Demons and the like are manifestations of our own pent up stress/anger/fear/worries. If you look at every documented case of Demon or Possession of any sort, the person (mostly prepubescent or pubescent children) but they have had some sort of trauma in their life previous to the ‘possession’ or ‘Poltergeist’ activity. Be it divorce, grief, bullying at school, prolonged illness in the family, stress in the family etc…you never ever see a case of a happy, financially secure, busy, healthy person being possessed or having issues with negative Spirits.

So what happens is the energy they create through the worrying, stress, anger, fear etc……has to go somewhere. It’s like if you rub two sticks together the heat it creates from making all that energy has to go somewhere and will result in a spark of a flame. So when you mix all that negative emotions of the person the energy has to go somewhere so it goes to the things nearest to the person. It will fly around looking for an object to absorb it’s energy. It can be commonly known as a type of Quantum Effect.

It (your left over negative energy) can slam doors, move furniture, break glass, make cats hiss and growl, throw objects, turn TVs and Radios On and Off, can even make you feel like your hitting a brick wall. It is draining and makes you feel so restless.Gives you feelings of hopelessness and depression. It can hurt people physically and emotionally. It can drain your house of electricity. It creates negative and invites negative into your life. YOU allow it to happen. And because it’s YOUR monster so to speak, it manifests in the ways that will scare you the most. It knows your fears as you do because it IS you. And YOU can get rid of it. How? Not by praying, not by doing rituals and banishing things, not by paying money to have someone come in and bang a drum or break an egg. You can get rid of it simply by being happy.

It takes only one tiny light to illuminate a room of darkness. And just like that match, bringing something into your home or heart that makes you happy starts to extinguish the dark. Positivity and happiness kills the dark. It might fight, it might kick up a fuss but the happier you get, the more positive you become the less power it has over you and your life. An exorcism doesn’t fix it over night. Rituals and Rites, don’t free things instantly. It takes time because your essentially stripping your home of one type of energy and replacing it with another but it does work and it works pretty quick.

So the first thing you need to do is the salt across your thresholds of any entrance into your home, and your bedroom. Just normal salt. Everyone has it in their home.

Then ask for your Spirits and Ancestors to surround you and your home with the white light of love and protection.

Then you tell this Negative, Nasty little Beast ‘I hereby Banish you from my life and my home. I No Longer give you power. You no longer hold any power over me and my life’ and then you proceed to live your life in ways that make you ecstatically happy. Do some charity work, help a stranger, buy a homeless person lunch, do some gardening, bake some cakes and cookies and give them to neighbours. Do anything you can think of that makes you happy. Something you know has a lasting affect. Watch a slew of comedy movies because laughter is just as powerful as love. Don’t think about what has been going on because to give it thought is to give it power. You need to strip it of it’s power. When you think about it, you feed it. When your scared you feed it, when you worry about it, you feed it. So you need to starve it of any attention.

Turn your back, close your mind to it. Just tell it to piss off and lock your mind to it. The same as you would a bully in school, ignore it. If you act like it isn’t there, if you give it nothing to feed off, it will starve and soon have no choice but to dissipate. It gets pushed out by the light. When you do good things, it creates light, strong pure Spiritual light. Love is Light. When you have Love in your heart you live in the Light of Spirit. So do things that make your heart feel good. Feed ducks in a park, play on the swings, go on a date, cook a surprise dinner for your partner/parents/friends. The action of doing such a lovely thing saturates the house/office/building with pure love and light. And within days you will start to notice a huge difference.

It really is that easy. Be Happy. Busy people, happy,productive people don’t get possessed or get naughty energy smashing their house up. It’s a fact.

But please make sure you know the difference between a negative energy and a Spirit. Just because you get frightened and your hair stands on end and things get moved etc…doesn’t mean it’s Negative Spirit or a Demon.

But it really is as simple as being happy and put love in your heart. John Lennon was spot on. Love really is all you need.

Hmmmmm So I seem to be Time Slipping at Home now too

Well I thought with what little I knew about Time Slipping it was related to the place I was in at the time playing a major role in where I have them but the last three days have proven to me this doesn’t need to be the case as I have had 3 time slip events in my own bedroom and they are so distinctive I will never forget every sensation I felt.

Here is what happened:

Wednesday Night while I was awake and anxiously waiting to have a mild medical operation on Thursday Morning I was laying on the bed and started to feel weird. I had almost like a dizzy episode but not an uncomfortable one. It just made me think I was tired. But all of a sudden I found myself sitting on the stairs of a grand house. The wooden rails and stairs had been newly varnished and painted because I could smell the varnish and paint. There was a tiled floor in front of me and I was sitting on a red carpet. I could feel it. I still can. I could smell pie cooking in the kitchen which I knew to be at the back and to the left of where I was sitting. I knew the lay out of the house and it was lovely and warm. It felt like home but I heard someone walking towards me, and I was just about to start talking to them when the sound of my own voice seemed to interrupt the Time Slip and everything when well I described it to my husband as ‘The Wibbly Wobbly Effect’. Everything was spinning so fast and I felt like I was falling faster than the spend of light to the point where I reached out to grab on to the bannister of the stairs I was sitting on and found myself grabbing on to thin air in my bed room.

The Second episode was after I came home from hospital on Thursday. I lay down to rest and was watching some TV in bed laying on my side when I found myself dropped and I say dropped because it felt like I landed with a thud on a cold country path. There was a stone bridge to my left and wintery country setting all around. It was so cold I could feel and still can feel the cold hitting my lungs. My breathe was steaming in the air. I could hear the stream running under the bridge. I could and still can feel the stones crunching under my feet as I walked to the bridge. I was aware that someone was with me. But I should point out these people I felt both times didn’t feel out of place being there so I don’t feel it was Spirit with me or my Elder for example. I felt like the people I was with was someone like a friend or Mr etc…. I wasn’t startled by them being there if you know what I mean?

So as I touched the freezing cold stone of the bridges structure I go to talk to who it was behind me and again the sound of my voice broke the connection and I literally felt myself almost disintegrate before my eyes. It was like I was in one of those machines that mixes paint tins. I was wibbly wobbling so fast I kind of broke up and started to fall REALLY fast. Again I reached out to grab the bridge to steady myself and found myself in my bedroom reaching out for the bridge to steady me, that was no longer there.

The third time was not 10 minutes ago. I have not dealt with this procedure very well. I’m in a lot of pain and have felt a bit rotten lol But I was laying on the bed with my youngest Train who was playing on his Tablet. He was ‘Looking after me’ which meant getting me to download free train games for kids on his Tablet while trying not to annoy me. And all of a sudden I felt myself standing in a door way in what looked like the heart of New York City. I could smell the heat of the city and it was a mixture of sweat, bakery/food, diesel, tar, tobacco and it only felt like about 8am. I reached out to open the door of this building. Glass on either side of me with silver metal door and building frame. As I reached out to open the door (which was warm) it was stuck and as I pulled on the door I made like a grunting sound as I yanked it open and I started the Wibbly Wobbly and for a split second, and I mean  split second I was in nothingness where it was like I was inside a TV on no channel. Ya know when your TV has static? I was super aware of my body between this nothingness and life and everything was magnified. I was just starting to feel nauseous and I found myself back in the bedroom yanking at a nothing in mid air lol my son looked at me like I was crazy lol

So every experience I have with this Time Slip or Psychic Travel or whatever it is I learn something new. I do need to point out at no time was I asleep, I was fully awake at all times.

Which is:       The location of the event isn’t important. I seem to break down physically, I’m able to communicate with the people in the Time Slip who don’t seem to be alarmed by my being there, even if I don’t know these people in my actual real life. I seem to travel so fast it must hold the key to breaking my down.

Like in Star Trek when they go through the Teleportation Device and they break down into pixels. I don’t seem to break down like that but the things around me do, it goes all static like around me. I feel everything in my body, my blood, organs, arteries, veins, follicles, every individual hair on my body, pores etc….everything on my body is magnified by 10,000 times it seems. At no point am I afraid and the only side affect is utter exhaustion and once a bit of nausea. I still can’t control when they happen or what happens when I’m in one. My goal is to see if I can manipulate my environment and interact with the people there with me. But unfortunately at this point I don’t know when it’s going to happen so I can’t even begin to prepare myself. Ideally I would love to have a camera with me but as I said, if I don’t know when they are going to happen I can’t prepare for it.

I have to assume I’m not allowed to interact just yet if at all. I know I won’t be allowed to change anything ie step on a mouse or kill someone. I know it’s an observation only thing but I would like to see how others see me when I’m in this ‘Time Slip’.

I know this sounds insane but it’s happening and very real.

Every episode I have I learn more and more, I can wait to see where this ends. Maybe I will be able to Quantum Leap at will sometime and have my very own History Channel lol

But one thing I have noticed, is the more I do with my gift to help those around me, the more of this gift I seem to unlock. Almost like I’m being tested and then rewarded. As I become more Spiritually Aware, as I become more in tune with my clients and those who are sent to me for help Spirit are unlocking a wee bit more to this gift. So I have to assume at some point I will know all there is to know about this Time Slip and may even be able to control when it happens. That is assumption of course. But I know that this all based on my level of faith, trust and understanding of my Gift and The Universe. It’s becoming clear I am on a major break through with something.

I wish I knew what it was lol I just know it’s all to do with my Gift and my Understanding of it. The more I learn, the more I practice the more Spirit let me experience. So considering I can have one experience every 6 months but have 2-3 at a time at this rate I should have this figured out by the time I’m 50 lol